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Occasionally a survivor of sexual assault says, "It happened only one time," as if that made the offense and agony less important.
To that, I answer, "It's not whether molestation happened one time or fifty times, you were still molested." Here's a good first question to ask: How did the abuse affect you?
I've talked with a few men who say they were abused and not damaged by the assault. That may be denial or their words may be true. Some individuals just don't hurt as easily or as deeply as others.
Do you know a man struggling with relationships, work, school, depression, substance abuse? Are you going to see him over the upcoming holidays?
Or perhaps you are that man and will be visiting loved ones next week over Thanksgiving or Chanukah.
Lots of things can inspire a man to want to improve his life. Disappointment over a failed relationship, a job or career setback, remorse about an act of violence or even the unexpected hollowness of a long-sought success can all prompt self examination.