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1in6 Thursday: After Jerry Sandusky…A Way Forward
Jun 28th
The trial of Jerry Sandusky focused the country’s attention on the sexual abuse of boys. It also showcased the tremendous courage of the young men who came forward who testified in court and in so doing, spoke powerfully to their own truths, and also to the larger truth of the sexual victimization of male children.
In conversation with Dr. David Lisak, a founding board member of 1in6, he reminded us that, “It’s important to remember that the jury’s verdict in this case does not control the healing process for any survivor. I hope that men who have been harmed by sexual abuse, and those who care for them, will use this moment to take a step on their own path toward healing. Talk to a loved one. Visit the 1in6 web site. Find a therapist. Take the next step.”
The conviction of Sandusky powerfully validates the truth that was so courageously spoken by the young men who testified in that Pennsylvania courtroom. It also validates the reality of the sexual abuse of male children and it further focuses the attention and the national conversation that have resulted from the prosecution of Jerry Sandusky. The Penn State case, driven by the courage of the survivors, has advanced the country’s understanding of the sexual abuse of boys, and in so doing it has given hope to countless boys and young men who otherwise may have remained isolated and alone.
In the wake of this case, it is important to redouble our efforts, as survivors and on behalf of survivors. More than ever, we must reach out to young men who may have been victims of sexual abuse; we must be receptive to disclosures; we must be ready as professionals to provide care and treatment to survivors who seek help.
And we must, once and for all, leave behind the old stereotypes and misconceptions that for too long have hidden the sexual abuse of boys from our collective consciousness.
The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives.
1in6′s mission also includes serving family members, friends, and partners by providing information and support resources on the web and in the community.
Joyful Heart and 1in6 invite you to visit 1in6.org for info, options and hope, and to learn more about our partnership and Engaging Men initiative at men.joyfulheartfoundation.
The views expressed above are not necessarily those of the Joyful Heart Foundation or 1in6.
Featured Organization: Safe Horizon’s Manhattan Child Advocacy Center
Jun 15th
The following article by Linda Fairstein appears in Issue 4 of Joyful Heart Foundation’s magazine, Reunion. Linda Fairstein, former prosecutor and best-selling novelist, is America’s foremost legal expert on crimes of violence against women and children. She currently serves as the Vice-Chair on Joyful Heart’s Board of Directors. Her newest crime novel, NIGHT WATCH, is being release on July 10, 2012 and is currently available for pre-order. Visit her online at www.lindafairstein.com and follow her on Facebook and Twitter. All photography by Michael Webber.
Whenever I think about child victims of sexual and physical abuse–and there are sadly so many thousands of them across this country–I start with the fact that not only are they our most vulnerable population, but they have also traditionally been terribly underserved by a criminal justice system designed for adult survivors.
In 1977, when I was a young prosecutor in charge of the country’s pioneering special victims unit, New York City established a multi-disciplinary task force to create innovative ways to deal with these long-ignored issues: sexual assault, domestic violence and child abuse. Assistant district attorneys, police officers, advocates, mental health experts and physicians met regularly, but some agencies were so territorial that we despaired of finding a more comfortable way for children to disclose abuse.
In some cities and towns—like New York in the ‘70s—it is still the practice that a child who reports sexual abuse, for example, is taken first to a police station and exposed, often in the middle of the night, to everything from perpetrators in handcuffs to jail cells, as well as lots of men and women in uniform. They are then taken to a hospital emergency room, where it would just be a matter of good luck if a trauma pediatrician is on duty, where the child waits to be triaged after car accidents, shooting victims, strokes and other urgent matters. Eventually, he or she might meet with a prosecutor in a courthouse, a child welfare investigator and ideally someone to counsel the victim. Each of these steps takes place under a separate roof, at a distinct day and time, and, while necessary, the process often adds to the child’s trauma instead of relieving it.
The concept that seemed so hopeless to us in the ’70s came to fruition in 1986, when the country’s first “child advocacy center” (CACs, as we call them) was developed in Huntsville, Alabama. From that first center in Huntsville, a national movement was created. Today, there are nearly 700 child advocacy centers nationwide, and more on the way. But it was here in New York City in 1996, when Safe Horizon opened the first fully co-located CAC in the United States, that the idea blossomed and yielded the great results we see today.
Let me tell you a little bit about Safe Horizon, the country’s largest victim advocacy organization, which is based in New York and was founded in 1978. It’s a non-profit with long and close ties to the Joyful Heart Foundation, for which I currently serve as the Vice-Chair on the Board of Directors. The two organizations have partnered on many important projects over the years. Mariska Hargitay, Joyful Heart’s Founder and President, served on the Safe Horizon board with me (as does her fabulous co-star, Stephanie March), and Maile Zambuto, Joyful Heart’s CEO, led their development team for several years. Safe Horizon is the only organization in the United Sates to operate four fully co-located, nationally accredited CACs in an urban setting–serving children ages 11 and under, almost five thousand cases a year.
What’s so important about being fully co-located? The first mission for providers is to ensure that children disclosing abuse are not further traumatized, as they might easily be in the example shown above. In Safe Horizon’s Manhattan CAC—which opened in 2009 and is my favorite place in the city, truly—the child-friendliness of the setting is obvious from the minute a visitor walks into the reception area. There are toys, games and books, child-sized furniture and friendly workers to put the kids at ease immediately.

The reception area of the Manhattan CAC is an inviting and playful space. Children wait here before they meet with Safe Horizon's warm and friendly staff in the facilities, which are decorated with artwork and gently lit throughout.
And then the key to the solution: a multi-disciplinary team–a superb trauma pediatrician with a private office designed to meet the medical needs of the victims, as well as to collect evidence; a detective specializing in child abuse, both physical and sexual; workers from the Administration for Children’s Services; a prosecutor from the DA’s office; and a social worker trained specifically to do a forensic interview—conduct a single interview, rather than five or six at agency after agency. This interview allows the police officer and others to watch through a one-way mirror, so the child is not overwhelmed by six interrogators.
One flight down, part of the CAC complex, is an entire self-contained module of a special victims unit. It’s an NYPD facility that includes a room in which line-ups can be conducted without ever having to take the victim out of the building, a cell in which an offender can be held and a room in which the offender or other witnesses can be interviewed.
The CAC team can complete the medical exam, conduct a detailed interview of the child, perform a mental health evaluation, provide victim support and advocacy and then follow up with case review and tracking. This process ensures the best clinical aftercare and a far greater chance of success in the courtroom. The dream of better serving the often-fragile child victim, which many of us thought hopeless three decades ago, are realized in each of Safe Horizon’s CACs.
Nancy Arnow, the program director in charge of the CACs, rightly points out that “the need for treatment of child abuse victims is on the increase, and that Safe Horizon’s groundbreaking programs are proven, successful models to be replicated across the country.” I go to the Manhattan CAC often to tour prospective donors, talk with school groups or prosecutors about this important work or simply visit my friends who do this difficult work with such skill and enthusiasm. It is always a privilege and a joy to see how this team approach to intervention following abuse so dramatically improves the circumstances of the victims who come to the CACs. This model not only changes these young lives that have been so severely traumatized, but it also saves the lives of the kids, their parents and their siblings every single day. To my view, Safe Horizon’s four CACs have set the gold standard for the way every child victim should be met when disclosing the awful truths of abuse.
Child Advocacy Centers are also located in Joyful Heart’s other locations in Los Angeles and Honolulu. The Stuart House is a part of the Rape Treatment Center in Los Angeles, and the Children’s Justice Centers are located in multiple cities in Hawai‘i. For more information, please visit www.911rape.org/about-us and www.courts.state.hi.us for details and contact information for the respective centers.
For information on Child Advocacy Centers across the country, please visit the National Children’s Alliance website at www.nationalchildrensalliance.org.
The Alice “Bobbie” Fairstein Medical Suite
One of the most important elements of the Manhattan Child Advocacy Center is the Alice “Bobbie” Fairstein Medical Suite. Alice Atwell Fairstein of Mount Vernon, New York—also known as Bobbie—died on July 3, 2008 at the age of 88. Born on April 17, 1920 to James and Ida Atwell, she was a 1941 graduate of the Mount Vernon Hospital School of Nursing and served as a U.S. naval nurse during World War II. Alice was stationed at Portsmouth Naval Hospital in Virginia, where her first patients were pilots wounded during the battle of Guadalcanal.
In 1943, she married her husband, the late Samuel Johnson Fairstein, a Fellow of the American College of Anesthesiology and Chief of Anesthesiology at Mount Vernon Hospital from 1957 to 1984. In 1965, Alice joined the staff of Louise Wise Services of Manhattan, where she was a supervising pediatric nurse, participating in the care of thousands of infants and children until the agency closed in 2004, forcing her retirement at the age of 84.
After Alice’s death, in her honor—and in recognition of her devotion to the health and well-being of children in crisis—her family and friends created the Alice Fairstein Medical Suite and a memorial fund to support its operation. The facility was dedicated in November 2008.
Alice will be remembered for her skilled medical care and compassion, her wise counsel to friends of all ages and the great spirit of joy with which she lived her very full life. Her memory will also live on in the level of expert and compassionate care provided to child victims of physical and sexual abuse in the medical facility that bears her name.
1in6 Thursday: The Sandusky Salvo
Jun 14th
Last November, as news of the Jerry Sandusky sexual abuse scandal broke, I was glued to the television, virtually immobile, as I saw the horrific memories of my childhood run parallel to the modern-day storyline. The media barrage was bitter-sweet. On the one hand, the coverage validated my pain, giving me a glimpse at hope for our society to finally lend this type of unforgivable crime the worldwide attention it deserves. On the other, it crippled me to see a student body group rioting in protest of their beloved coach’s downfall, and proud alumni coming to the defense of their former Defensive Coordinator with little-to-no proof of his innocence.
With all of the work I had done, with all of the time spent in therapy and the wisdom it had provided, with all that I had accomplished, with the book I had written about my recovery progress, how could this case leave me feeling so alone and afraid?
That was over six months and thirty therapy sessions ago. Still, I sit here, the television bombing me with defense strategies, opening statements, witness inconsistencies and holes in the prosecution’s case, wondering when I’ll be impervious to this type of emotional invasion. After some time to reflect, I remind myself that wondering is a waste of my time. I know the answer: this struggle is normal for someone like me and that’s alright.
As this case unfolds and as media coverage ignites, there will be millions of men in the United States alone who will be reminded of their unfortunate experiences in childhood. Some will not be affected. Some will side-step the issue. Some will avoid it completely. Some will marvel at their personal recovery progress and roll through their days unscathed. But, there are men who will find themselves triggered by the high-profile, too-close-to-home nature of the case. These men will feel as though they’re in a bunker alone. They will close their eyes and hear the explosions, waiting for the sun to rise and the attack to subside.
I wish I could hand them what I have learned over the years; I wish I could give them the tools I have learned in therapy—the ability to take a deep breath, to reflect. Many haven’t been given the chance to receive the treatment I have. The wounds seem too deep, the resources too far from grasp, the perspective undiscovered.
So, where does that leave me? Well…hopeful. Not for me—I feel like one of the lucky ones; I’ve found help. I’m hopeful for the men who have yet to reach out for help because what they need is right at their fingertips. The resources they believe are unattainable are within sight. The next three weeks of media bombardment need not be sustained alone and without defense—the bunker is much stronger, much larger and much fuller than anyone might think. To feel less alone and to get a glimpse at some of the millions strong in this bunker, visit 1in6.org/men/other-guys-like-me/.
Chris Carlton is the Development Director at 1in6. He is the author of Nice To Meet Me, a book that chronicles his journey through therapy for sexual abuse in an effort to help fellow abuse survivors and those who love them better understand the process of recovery. Chris is a former U.S. Navy intelligence officer and advertising executive living in Richmond, Virginia.
The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives.
1in6′s mission also includes serving family members, friends and partners by providing information and support resources on the web and in the community.
Joyful Heart and 1in6 invite you to visit 1in6.org for info, options and hope, and to learn more about our partnership and Engaging Men initiative at men.joyfulheartfoundation.org.
The views expressed above are not necessarily those of the Joyful Heart Foundation or 1in6.
Celebrating Father’s Day
Jun 11th
As we’re getting ready to celebrate all the fathers, grandfathers, father-figures, uncles, brothers and partners in our lives this Father’s Day, we wanted to take a moment and recognize the men who are fearlessly joining the movement to end violence and abuse. The parents and caregivers who are, every day, doing their part to instill love and respect for one another in their children’s hearts. The brothers, sons and partners who rise up to intervene, to prevent and to say no more to violence. The advocates and survivors who let others—men and women alike—know that they are not alone on their healing journeys, that there are resources and support and that sexual assault, domestic violence and child abuse are issues that affect all of us.
We often refer to what we do as being part of the movement to end violence against women and children. But it’s bigger than that. Because while women and children represent the majority of victims of sexual and domestic violence, we know that men are affected as well. Men and boys are sexually and physically assaulted. They are witnesses and bystanders to violence. And sometimes, they’re the perpetrators. Engaging men is a crucial part of the movement to address, prevent and—one day—end sexual assault, domestic violence and child abuse.
As you might know, Joyful Heart turned towards engaging men in a big way this year, starting with an education and awareness campaign that launched around the second episode of Law & Order: Special Victims Unit back in September. It was an episode about a coach, respected and trusted as a mentor in his community, who is accused of sexually abusing the young players on his team for decades. Little did we know that it would air for the first time just weeks before the tragedies at Penn State, Syracuse and Poly Prep in Brooklyn were brought to light. The powerful episode—which re-aired with a PSA from our Founder & President, Mariska Hargitay, in January—reached over 11 million households.
This year, tens of thousands of new visitors have found our website, where they have learned about these issues, found ways to get involved and connected to resources, information and life-saving help. Mariska used her powerful voice to engage in a national dialogue on the issue of sexual assault of men and boys. And we’ve partnered with our friends at 1in6, an incredible resource to the 1 in 6 men—19 million American males—who are survivors of an unwanted or abusive sexual experience in childhood, to bring stories of healing from survivors, resources for them and their partners and families and awareness to this issue here on the Joyful Heart Blog and to make resources available in print and online to those who need them.
So now, as we take a moment to reflect on all of this, we also take a moment to reflect on all those who give us cause to be grateful, to celebrate, this Father’s Day. We thank you—no matter who you are or where in the world you’re reading this email from—for being a part of our efforts, for being fearless.
We ask that you consider sharing your gratitude by sharing this post with them. And if you would like to give the gift of fearlessness to a father or important man in your life, we invite you to shop Me&Ro’s Joyful Heart collection. In honor of Joyful Heart’s Engaging Men initiative and in time for Father’s Day, Me&Ro has added another inspiring piece to their Joyful Heart collection, the Men’s Fearlessness Tube Bracelet. It’s Me&Ro’s first piece made exclusively for and in support of men. The message of fearlessness means so much, and we are so privileged to be able to now share it with men, without whom a world free of violence and abuse will not be possible.
1in6 Thursday: Can Any Good Come from the Sandusky Sexual Abuse Trial?
Jun 7th
The Sandusky sexual abuse trial is about to begin and the saga will unfold on the Internet, mainstream news and in the tabloids. Many stories will be told, exposed and exploited even with the restrictions on photography, texting, video and more imposed by the court. The witnesses will be put to credibility and reliability tests, memories will be challenged and the accused will sit in the courtroom confronted by his victim/accusers.
We have been here before. The McMartin nursery school sexual abuse in Manhattan Beach, California in 1984 comes to mind. The McMartin case did not result in any convictions after seven years of investigations and trials, but a major positive outcome of that trial was the complete revamping of how child sexual abuse victims were interviewed.
What greater good can come from this trial and subsequent information and news cycles? Can there be positive impacts and outcomes that allow a wake up call to the challenges that the intervention and prevention of sexual abuse present?
In particular, I’m thinking about breaking down the barriers of institutional blindness. Many people allege that they were suspicious of abuse and indeed did report. The mother of Victim One reported her suspicions that her son was being sexually abused by Sandusky to her son’s high school principal. The principal in turn reported to child welfare services. The Penn State police investigated for 3 years and uncovered allegations that Sandusky molested nine other boys. No actions were taken during that entire period.
This trial will be as high profile as they come. After all, this is the world of college sports. Both prosecutors and the defense attorneys will use aggressive tactics and we can expect coverage akin to a champion sporting match. Beyond winners and losers in a court case, what good can we expect from this experience? Is there the possibility of some good outcomes and dare we raise our expectations?
Will the myopic and insular actions of university officials be exposed in such a way as to influence better policies, training and behaviors at institutions of higher learning? Will the victim/accusers/survivors feel any sense of justice after making their voices public? Will the public’s capacity for compassion be increased or eroded into another round of compassion fatigue? Will there be lessons learned and questions formulated for everyone about the challenges in preventing child sexual abuse? Will communities come together to tackle this issue so that child sexual abuse and all forms of sexual violence do not go underground again until the next shocking scandal or front-page exposé?
What good can come out of the Sandusky sexual abuse trial of 2012?
Let’s pay attention carefully and keep our expectations high.
Patti Giggans is the Executive Director of Peace Over Violence. Peace Over Violence is dedicated to building healthy relationships, families and communities free from sexual, domestic and interpersonal violence. She is also the Vice-President of the Board of Directors for 1in6.
The mission of 1in6 is to help men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood live healthier, happier lives.
1in6′s mission also includes serving family members, friends and partners by providing information and support resources on the web and in the community.
Joyful Heart and 1in6 invite you to visit 1in6.org for info, options and hope, and to learn more about our partnership and Engaging Men initiative at men.joyfulheartfoundation.org.
The views expressed above are not necessarily those of the Joyful Heart Foundation or 1in6.
Zippy’s and One Strong ‘Ohana Share the Finish Line at the Honolulu 5K for Kids
May 18th
Clear skies, gentle winds and the peaceful stillness of an early Sunday morning kicked off the 2nd annual Honolulu 5K for Kids on April 29th. Hundreds of Hawai‘i’s families arrived bright and early to race around the Downtown Honolulu area. Created in June 2010, the Honolulu 5K For Kids is a local not-for-profit event that helps promote health and fitness for Hawai‘i’s children, as well as their families, to create a more active and healthy lifestyle. All the funds that were raised through the event go towards providing additional funds to Hawai‘i schools for physical education, fitness, and athletic programs.
We were so grateful to get up and get moving as part of this day with families across Honolulu and Zippy’s Restaurants, a leading sponsor of the event and corporate partner in the One Strong ‘Ohana campaign. Zippy’s generously donated their booth at the finish line to the campaign, where we were able to provide information and resources to families about preventing child abuse and neglect in Hawai‘i.
We at Joyful Heart, as one of the partner organizations of the One Strong ‘Ohana campaign, would personally like to send our most gracious mahalo to Zippy’s Restaurants and the folks at the Honolulu 5K for the amazing opportunity to be at the event. Keeping kids active, spending time with family and engaging in fun community activities are all ways to strengthen the bonds in your own family. We all have a role in preventing child abuse and neglect and this event was a wonderful opportunity to share the message that we can all do something to nurture and protect our keiki.
Join the Movement to Say NO MORE
May 9th
Dear Joyful Heart Community,
As some of you may know, Joyful Heart is part of an exciting and transformative initiative called NO MORE, a movement to unite all of us around one universal symbol and the simple message that together we can end domestic violence and sexual assault.
Like the peace sign, the yellow “support our troops” ribbon, the red AIDS ribbon or the pink breast cancer ribbon, the goal is to use this new symbol to help spark a national dialogue and move the issues of domestic violence and sexual assault higher on the public’s agenda.
I have had the privilege of serving on the Executive Committee since the inception of the project and Joyful Heart is also part of the Steering Committee, along with 16 leading organizations across the country and the U.S. Department of Justice.
Last month, NO MORE officially launched. We’re getting a glimpse into what NO MORE is going to do—what it’s already doing—to change the way we talk about, respond to and work together to end domestic violence and sexual assault. NO MORE has been years in the making. And it’s only just beginning. As the movement grows, the reach and ubiquity of the symbol will grow with it.
Our purpose is to utilize this symbol and message to raise visibility, create awareness, encourage conversation and help break the social stigma surrounding domestic violence and sexual assault. Our hope is by accomplishing those goals, we will be laying the foundation for an even broader level of change, from which we will start to see a real shift. If there are large numbers of people demonstrating their support for our issues and standing for NO MORE, bystanders will be more likely to speak up, victims will feel more empowered and perpetrators will feel more challenged. And, as more and more people align themselves with the movement—as the cause gains greater visibility—policymakers will take notice and it will help lead to stronger public policies and more funding for prevention and services.
I’m saying NO MORE to domestic violence and sexual assault by using this symbol and sharing it with everyone I know. I hope you will too.
Please visit www.nomore.org to find out more. You can take action and join the movement in any number of ways—by taking the pledge, submitting your photo to the NO MORE photo wall, purchasing a NO MORE product and wearing it, requesting a toolkit and sharing NO MORE through your social media outlets.
More to come soon.
With gratitude,
There Is No Excuse—On Denim Day or Any Day
Apr 25th
As you know, April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. And this year, Joyful Heart partnered with dozens of organizations, community-based programs and government officials to turn towards the issue of sexual assault in New York City with Denim Day.
Denim Day is an award-winning annual sexual violence prevention and education campaign started by our Los Angeles-based partner, Peace Over Violence. It grew out of a 1990s Italian Supreme Court case in which the Court’s decision overturned a rape conviction because the victim wore tight jeans. The judges reasoned the victim’s tight jeans meant that she had to have helped her assailant remove them, implying consent. People all over the world were outraged, and wearing jeans became an international symbol of protest against erroneous and destructive attitudes and myths surrounding sexual assault. Last year, more than 2.6 million people participated in Denim Day throughout the U.S.
This year is New York’s third year participating in Denim Day campaign and Joyful Heart is so proud to have joined the coalition. In addition to activities, workshops and programs happening throughout all five boroughs for youth and adults on Denim Day, we held a press conference on the steps of City Hall yesterday to kick off our coalition’s Denim Day events.
In addition to our Denim Day organizers the New York City Alliance Against Sexual Assault, Manhattan Borough President Scott M. Stringer, the St. Luke’s Roosevelt Crime Victims Treatment Center and Start Strong Bronx, we were joined by advocates, youth government officials and individuals who filled the steps of City Hall to bring the message to New york that there is no excuse and never an invitation to rape.
We’re sharing that message nationally too. Yesterday, Mariska penned an op-ed in the Huffington Post with Denim Day founder Patti Giggans. From their article:
The way our society thinks about rape and receives survivors is not only tragic, it’s dangerous. Fearing that they won’t be believed, survivors are less likely to report their rapes, which means rapists stay out of jail, which means they are free to rape again.
Denim Day is about coming together as a community that has no tolerance for sexual violence, a community that commits its resources—intellectual, financial, emotional—to responding differently to survivors and making their healing a priority.
To read the entire article, click here.
We and our partners are also sharing this message in social media (that would be #denimday, if you’re on Twitter) in hospitals and rape crisis programs, offices, schools and colleges throughout the country. Together, we can change these harmful victim-blaming attitudes about sexual violence. We can change the way we think about, respond to and support survivors of sexual assault.
If you are wearing denim today, please be sure you have registered your support on www.denimdayusa.org. We invite you to submit photos of yourself in your denim to blog@joyfulheartfoundation.org and share what you’re doing for Denim Day in the comments below.










