Self-Care for Trying Times or Triggering Experiences
Tonight’s episode of Law and Order: Special Victims Unit has caused a great deal of concern to some fans of the show, many of whom are also supporters of the Joyful Heart Foundation. We acknowledge and recognize that the decision to cast Mike Tyson may be confusing, triggering and perhaps even painful for some people–especially those who are survivors of violence and abuse.
We understand how difficult it can be to make sense of this choice, especially since the show has often been seen as a source of support and empowerment to many survivors. The effects of trauma in the mind, body and spirit are complex and can bring up different trauma reminders that are unique to us. That is, our responses to trauma can vary by individual.
In general, when we interact with our environment, it can awaken memories of a past experience—your own or a loved one’s—that can affect us in the moment. We would like to provide you with resources that can support you at this time and in your broader healing process.
Begin by checking-in with yourself. Do an analysis of how your mind and body feel—what emotions are you feeling? Are you experiencing thoughts or memories related to your own or a loved one’s trauma? Are you feeling tension in your body or are you holding your breath? Common bodily responses to trauma include tension, fear, anger, sadness and maybe even feeling unsafe. Remind yourself that what you are experiencing is a common response to your own experience of a traumatic event. If you are feeling in any way unsafe, create a safety plan such as calling a friend or talking to your therapist if you have one. Having a good source of support can make a difference in your healing process.
If you or someone you know needs help, please contact:
Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network at
1 (800) 656-4673 / www.rainn.org
or National Domestic Violence Hotline at
1 (800) 799-7233 / www.ndvh.org
or National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline at
1 (866) 331-9474 / www.loveisrespect.org
or National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at
1 (800) 273-8255 / www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org
If you are in immediate danger, please call 911.
Allow your feelings to exist and be gentle with yourself as you process them. It is common for us to feel shame or guilt for feeling a certain way or for having a certain response, such as crying. As you allow your feelings to surface, it can be easier to cope with them.
There are other creative and helpful ways of addressing your thoughts and feelings about this situation such as talking, journaling, drawing or making a collage. These coping strategies can be helpful in creating insight about your own traumatic experience and healing path. Additionally, creating daily practices that involve exercise, relaxation or breathing exercises can help you release tension from your mind and body and reduce stress.
The coping tools described above are just a few ideas that can assist you in developing your own healing practices. If you’d like to explore even more possible approaches, here are some additional articles that might be of use:
- Explore your journey by creating a story (from Reunion 4).
- Give meditation a chance.
- Unlock your creative potential. Check out the blog and our featured modality on creative expression (from Reunion Issue No. 3).
- Create a lasting, peaceful home retreat.
Of course, you know yourself best, so if you don’t see something that feels like it would be helpful, we invite you to explore a different idea at your own pace. Take the time to practice some of these strategies and find the ones that work for you as only you know what will be most helpful.
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about 3 months ago
Thank you for this. I am a survivor of childhood molestation and I am still willing to watch the show, I am not saying anything bad toward those who decided to not watch. I know its difficult for most but for me it really isnt bothering me much so i am not sure it thats a problem or not. Should I be reacting the same way as others since I am a survivor? It doesnt bother me.
about 3 months ago
Should is a dangerous word when it is used to imply permission for other people to dictate how you are supposed to be, think, or act. Your journey is your own, you have walked your own paths, and have found your own level of enlightenment, comfort, and/or acceptance of what has happened on that journey. This -entitles- you to feel exactly anyway you do in the same way it entitles those who had a problem with the casting decision.
I am a huge fan of any decision or action that helps people think. A stagnant pool festers and rots while running waters are fresh and alive. It is not SVU’s job to coddle, it’s job is to evoke. I may not be in love with the idea of Tyson getting a pay day on the show, but it’s caused a great many discussions about how people are “supposed” to feel, and I believe that has a lot of merit.
about 3 months ago
I too respect each individual’s right to make their own decision but I agree with Tara – as a survivor myself, I still watched this episode. SVU has consistently educated and entertained viewers for 13 seasons and while the actors have generously gone above and beyond in their efforts to support victims, survivors, and other important charities, I believe we need to remember it is still a TV show.
While I have no love for Mike Tyson, I don’t expect the folks doing the casting to put more thought into the background of the guest actors than goes into checking the records of volunteers in nursing homes, schools, community organizations, etc., where they will have access to vulnerable individuals. I would much rather save my energy and petition signing to attempt to create stronger controls in this area than changing the casting of every actor/actress whose actions and/or behavior has offended me.
Again while I make no excuse for criminal behavior, the sad truth is that our prisons are filled with people who are both victims and perpetrators and if that message gets out because of this episode and even one person reaches out for counseling/help before they turn their pain and anger on another person, then that just proves again that the collective work of a great cast is far greater than one guest actor’s 15 minutes of fame.
about 3 months ago
Thank you so much Tara, Moxie and Nancy. You expressed your thoughts in such an effective and respectful way.
As a survivor, I also tried to look at the whole issue from a different point of view, which is deeply connected to my current life situation. I concluded that Mike Tyson on SVU is a controversial casting, but the show has an important record of giving survivors the courage and power to come forward and start healing for the past 13 years. I also appreciated the discussions, but as Moxie said, it is dangerous to tell others “how they should feel “as we are all individuals. Each of us follows his or her own path of healing. To watch or not to watch the episode is a very personal choice and there is no right or wrong. It’s individual and up to the person.
I think we could still learn a lot from this episode’s message despite Mike Tyson’s casting.