Reunion Online

"What can I do?"

Men are a vulnerable population, worthy of healing and not just for the purpose of preventing violence against women.

In a very surprising and rare occurrence in a debate about Child Sexual Abuse Prevention trainings on the floor of the Utah State Senate, three male Senators disclosed their personal experiences of sexual abuse and attempted abuse as children. The three men disclosed openly and publicly during a floor debate on bill (HB 286) proposed by Angela Romero of Salt Lake City. The bill would allow public schools to teach children age-appropriate instruction on how to recognize and report abusive acts.

All survivors—women and men, boys and girls—have suffered enough. It's time we spoke openly, intelligently and compassionately about the men who have suffered the trauma of abuse.

Navigating the land of Oz and staying on the Yellow Brick Road.

If I could have cleansed myself from those negative emotions, I would have done so long ago.

Today I hope that you will indulge me and allow me to speak from my heart on a very personal subject, the passing of our dear, dear friend Heidi Sommer.

How do we use the lessons of trauma-informed care to help the people who commit those violent acts—often men who themselves were physically, sexually and/or emotionally abused or neglected—stop, be accountable and live safe, satisfying lives?

This Valentine’s Day, we ask you to start this conversation about domestic violence and healthy relationships in whatever way you can.

May the force grant you the courage to change the things you can. You will be amazed.